Book Review & Giveaway: Tiny Blue Lines

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When I got married at the age of 20 the summer before my junior year of college, many people assumed I “had” to get married. A guy I worked with even asked if I was going to continue working after, well, you know…. At first, I didn’t know what he was talking about. After I get married? After I get back from my honeymoon? I responded with an, “Um, yeah.” It wasn’t until he walked away that I realized what he was implying. Why else would a woman choose to get married so young and while still in college? It had to be because she was pregnant, right?

Imagine the surprise of those who thought that when Matt and I waited seven years before having kids. It wasn’t that we didn’t want kids; we were just having fun being married and spending time together. Uninterrupted. And, sleeping in. Of course we got many questions and odd looks over the years. I know people assumed all sorts of reasons as to why we hadn’t become parents yet, but the truth was we were just taking our sweet time before starting our family.

Recently, I had the chance to review Chaunie Marie Brusie’s book “Tiny Blue Lines: Reclaiming Your Life, Preparing for Your Baby and Moving Forward with Faith in an Unplanned Pregnancy.” Chaunie’s experience was quite different from mine. Her senior year of college, she became pregnant. While she and her boyfriend had talked about marriage, they didn’t plan to become parents so soon. Throughout the book, Chaunie speaks with honesty about what it was like coming to terms with an unplanned pregnancy. She not only shares her own story, but the stories of others who have also experienced unplanned pregnancies at an early age.

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What she discovered was that she had few places to turn to for help and support:

“I sought desperately to find others like me out there. I didn’t fit in with the older soccer mom crowd, and I wasn’t exactly teenage mom material, either. As an independent young woman in college, my needs and experiences were different. But I couldn’t find anything relating to women like me. The unspoken consensus surrounding unplanned pregnancy for college-age women seemed to be that we should just deal with it—or get rid of it.” [1]

Throughout her book, Chaunie shares advice and tips for women who find themselves in a similar situation. She explores topics that I never had to deal with or consider. After all, my pregnancy was planned, I had a husband, we were well out of college and we fit the mold of a “typical” family. I have to admit that I was astonished at some of the looks, comments and judgements that Chaunie had to deal with.

“As a young mom, you will have to deal with rude people. It’s practically a law. If I had a dollar for every time someone asked me how old I was or muttered a ‘babies-having-babies’ comment under his or her breath, you had better believe I’d be sockpiling diapers like they were going out of style.” [79]

Even though I couldn’t relate to all of Chaunie’s experiences, pregnancy and motherhood are so universal that I felt myself nodding right along with some of her revelations:

“In the end, I have realized that motherhood has not taken away my sense of self—it has only transformed it. The key to motherhood is realizing that I am not made up of fluid boundaries; instead of fighting to keep separate my ‘mom’ and ‘non-mom’ roles, I let them move in and out of each other, interchanging and shifting, like a shimmering, permeable membrane. … The very thing I feared most has actually become the key to unlocking all my heart’s desires.” [75-76]

So, whether you are a young mom who is experiencing an unplanned pregnancy or an “older” mother who waited years before becoming a mother, “Tiny Blue Lines” offers stories and advice that unifies us all as mothers. If there is one thing that this book has reminded me of, it’s that motherhood isn’t easy and, though our journeys may look different, we are not alone.

To purchase the book, visit Amazon. To learn more, visit TinyBlueLines.com.

And, to win a copy, simply enter below! Chaunie graciously gave me a book to pass along to one lucky reader. Whether it’s for you, a friend or an acquaintance, don’t miss the deadline! Enter today and good luck!!

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{Please note: I did receive this book for free to review. This is not a sponsored post, though I do receive a portion of each purchase made via the Amazon associate links. Thanks for your support!}

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